In the 21st century it still surprises me to have people state that having sex is a moral issue. The moralists state that you are only allowed sex if you are married. Every other occasion is immoral. If you live with a partner, you are not allowed to have sex because you are not married. If you are only dating, heaven forbid you have sex. And you are definitely on the dammed list if you enjoy a one night stand. Then there is also an age limit. Having sex when you are in your late teens is listed on the criminal activity list.
Where does this come from? Abstaining from sex, or chastity, is such a middle ages concept. The purpose of chastity was to keep a man’s wife faithful while he galavanted around taking part in a myriad of wars and jousting tournaments etc literotica. He of course did not have to abide by the same rules.
It was also meant to ensure that young girls would not be ‘soiled’ before marriage. All of the above having one purpose. The man’s possession, the wife present or future, was truly his and untouched by anybody else. On the other hand it could also have started when Christianity first came onto the scene. The Romans and Greeks certainly didn’t seem to have the same moral issues about sex.
So far this same principle has continued to this day. Young men are allowed and even encouraged in some societies to ‘sow their oats’ before marriage. It is often a matter of great pride as to how many women a young man has had sex with. For a woman, being sexually active with more than one partner is often frowned on as a shameful activity. Amongst the more orthodox Muslims a woman’s infidelity, whether actual or even just suspected, can lead to a kangaroo type court and a death by stoning penalty.
If the idea of morality and sex is so ancient, why are people still believing in it? Actually for the same reason as before. Men want their woman to belong to them, and only them. The Christian churches support this principle and the orthodox Muslims even have a death penalty to discourage a woman from leaving her husband or being unfaithful. And guess what, the churches and mosques are run by men. And they look after their turf. The disputes rage in many of the Christian faiths as to whether women ministers are allowed. And as for orthodox Muslims, they would roll around laughing at the idea of a woman taking office in their faith.
I was reading a story of an unmarried priest who has quit a top job in the church because she is pregnant. She had a senior position in the Church of England. It is bizarre that such a natural thing as having a baby is such a sin, that she cannot continue to work in the church. She might not even have had sex to fall pregnant. I suppose if the church believes its a sin, they can’t be seen to condone it with one of their senior staff members. Pregnancy is fairly obvious and not that easy to hide. Not like molesting young boys, which can be buried.
This issue of morality and sex then brings its weight to bear on one of the consequences and that would be pregnancy. If it is immoral to have sex before marriage, then one can obviously not admit to the fact that one is having or considering having sex. This means that no birth control may be used, as using birth control would automatically confirm the intent of having sex.